As I reflect on this special event, I am reminded that with the Lord all things are totally possible. My story is a first-time home birth VBAC. When I had my first child I was quite typical. Everything I knew about birth I had learned from television. I just assumed you had a vaginal birth, and if something went wrong, a C-section was the next best option. I was determined to have a vaginal birth because I convinced that that's just how our bodies were equipped. But, my first birth ended in a C-section and it was a bad hospital experience. Looking back now, I am grateful I had a difficult time, because now I can proudly say I understand both sides of giving birth.
I became pregnant again about a year and a half later. It was at that time that I was introduced to the movie "The Business of Being Born". That movie set a fire in me and fully convinced me that my body KNEW how to give birth. At the time, my family lived in a rather rural area in the eastern part of Oklahoma. The closest GOOD hospital was more than an hour away, and I had absolutely no experience in choosing a midwife, so I googled "midwifes in my area". Pamela Brott was the closest one to me. My husband and I drove 2 hours to meet with her. We were very skeptical at first, but her experience, knowledge, honesty, faith in the Lord and assurance that God created our bodies to give birth is what sold us. Further along in my pregnancy her willingness to allow me to make decisions concerning my pregnancy and birth set a standard for my future births.
I was roughly a week and a half away from my projected "due date" when the contractions began. It was a Sunday evening when my hips and back began to ache. All I knew was I was feeling pretty uncomfortable so I had my husband push my hips together. That night I was feeling a dull pain, which made me excited to think maybe it was time! I texted Pamela late that night and she called me to listen as I went through a couple of contractions. She could tell I wasn't quite there, so she told me to make sure I tried to get some rest. I definitely couldn't sleep very well because I was so excited! Monday morning, I woke up feeling pretty tired and was having pretty consistent contractions. I was supposed to go to a baby shower that day, and needed to keep my mind off of the pain so I drove 30 minutes to the baby shower. While showering I had to stop and think through my contractions, but I made it!
That evening I prepared all we needed for the birth and tried to rest. At about 11pm I couldn't stand the pain so I texted Pamela and described how I was feeling. She called and listened to me again and realized I was not only in active labor, but I was probably VERY close to giving birth! I woke my husband up and he began to prepare the pool (I highly recommend a birth pool). Pamela wasn't even sure she would make it to the birth because I had waited so long to call. During her travels Pam called a couple of times to check and see how I was doing. My husband innocently kept updating her on his progress with filling the birth pool, meanwhile, I was laying on the floor in PAIN! (We laugh about that now.) Pam and her assistant arrived around 4am. They helped finish with filling the pool and I got in...INSTANT RELIEF! The pool felt wonderful. I really didn't want anyone to touch me. I just laid back in the pool and soon I was pushing. I remember saying things like, "I can't do this!" Pam responded, "You are doing it!" And when I felt the head and Pam said she could see it I yelled, "Pull it out!" Pam assured me that everything was fine and that he would rotate so that his shoulders could come. In no time at all he was out. We pulled him up out of the water and he was in my arms! I exclaimed, "I DID IT!!!" Then I turned to Pam and said, "What do I do now?" To which she simply said, "Just hold him." I held him, explored him, kissed him and just loved on him for over 30 minutes...then my husband cut his cord and the rest is history!
Giving birth at home for the first time is one of my greatest accomplishments. I was called names and told I was making a terrible decision, but the Lord used Pam to speak truth to me. She was helpful to us in so many ways. I am so grateful that I was able to overcome and to take that leap of faith. Having a home birth is such an amazing and beautiful experience. It has given me a love and appreciation and even a craving for birth.
Pamela is hands down AMAZING, I can't even begin to thank her enough for the care I received during my pregnancy/labor/birth of my son. She was there from day one, she took her time, she listened, she would answer my questions no matter what time of day or night it was, she'd listen to my fears and concerns. She did everything she could to help me have the most amazing pregnancy/birth. I would recommend her X10 to everybody & anybody! I will forever cherish this relationship, she feels like family.
Thank you, Pam, for being such a great support to us. Your outstanding character, patience, and kindness meant a lot. Your openness and honesty really helped as we prepared for labor. During my hard labor you were calm and confident, right there where I needed you. Thank you also for your help with latching on with nursing. It was very helpful and changed everything. I really enjoyed breastfeeding after learning that. A thing we will never forget with you is the good advice you gave us and that we share the same faith together.
Getting to have a natural birth was a much better experience than the hospital we used with our first child. I was able to help all I wanted and my input was much appreciated. For our future children we will be using Pam again if we are in the area.
With my first labor I wanted a midwife and homebirth. But
because of various reasons I compromised and had a hospital midwife. After a
very long hard labor and pushing stage, and after having several things done to
me that I asked NOT to have done, I ended up with a C-section. It broke me and
I began to doubt that my body was designed for childbirth. When I got pregnant
again I knew that my best bet for a successful VBAC was a home birth. That was
when we found Pam. In the first two appointments we learned more than we had
through the entire 9 months with our first.
Pam helped both my husband and me to believe once again that
God knew what he was doing when He made me. I went from being terrified that I
was going to have a repeat of my first birth to really believing that I could
have the VBAC I so desperately wanted and emotionally needed.
All the way through my pregnancy Pam helped me to relax and anytime fears came up she would work us through them. When I went into labor she was there... Not telling me what I wanted to hear, but telling me what I needed to hear to get through my labor. Pam prayed with us and quoted Scripture. That strengthened me. At one point I looked at her and said, "I need an epidural!" She calmly looked around the room then looked back at me and said, "I'm sorry, I don't have one in my bag but God knows what you need and you are strong enough to do this". She helped me find the best position to labor in. For me it was the toilet. Right before the baby came she helped move me into a good squat.
I have never experienced pain quite like that but once my daughter was born I felt complete. I felt like my womanhood had been restored after having been lost 4 years earlier. Pam's love, encouragement and toughness was exactly what I needed. After my daughter was born Pam faded into the background so that my husband and I could be with our new baby girl. I'm not sure we could ever find the right way to say thank you, but we are thankful from the bottom of our hearts.
Moving back to the Texoma area and finding out I was pregnant made me nervous. Not because I was having another baby, but because I had a fabulous home birth in Hawaii and didn't know if I would get that experience here. Finding Pam was a life saver. She was a lot of fun to talk to and she never cared if my older kids came along. She was calm and informative during all of my appointments, and had a solid plan in action for when I went into labor since I lived over an hour away from her. Pam really took the time to get to know me, which I really appreciated, and thank goodness she did! I called Pam unsure of if I was really in labor or not, and then forgot to call her when I realized I was. Pam had thankfully known I was in labor from the way I sounded on the phone and was already on her way by the time I remembered to call back. She made it with 20 minutes to spare before my baby was born, and only 3 hours after labor had started. During my labor and postpartum she was always so quiet and caring and was very good at checking in on me. She calmly talked by best friend through helping me give birth and didn't bat an eye when I told her how all I wanted to be supported. And when my baby's head got a little stuck she stayed cool and composed which helped me to keep calm. I always recommend Pam to anyone looking for a homebirth.
I was determined to have a safe but unhindered birth. After talking with Pam about several issues and frustrations with my OB I switched to her care. I felt valued, cared for and I knew she had my and my baby's best interests at heart. I trusted God's design for birth and was delighted that Pam, too, trusted this perfect design by a perfect Creator. My son was born 11 days after my due date. It was my desire to let my body go into labor on its own. Although friends and family were anxious I was "overdue," Pam kept calm. She continued to monitor me and my baby. She stayed with me and explained from a physiological standpoint that everything was fine and that she was fine with waiting for my body to trigger labor on its own. Once labor began Pam was a calm and quiet presence in the room. She got myself and others organized without me even realizing what was going on in the room. This allowed me to stay focused on my labor, which happened pretty fast. During labor I wanted my husband the whole time but Pam quickly stepped in when he was away, then upon his return gave him his spot back. That meant a lot. I labored for 5 hours and then pushed for one hour and my sweet baby was born. Pam really was great and this birth exceeded my expectations.
The time that we spent with Pam prenatally was enjoyable. She provided a relaxed and comfortable environment and was very accommodating to our wants and needs. She was super supportive to us without judgement and was very hands off, which I like. My labors tend to be pretty short once active labor starts. Pam came and hung out with us even before the contractions became strong in anticipation of a quick progression. It was nice to spend that time with her and I'm glad that she was accommodating. Our homebirth was a great experience and everything went smoothly. When I had questions or concerns in the postpartum period Pam did a great job at addressing them. She offered up the encouragement I needed with breastfeeding and even called me out of the blue one day and offered to stop by just to check on me. I was really impressed with that. Her knowledge, commitment and relaxed personality made her a good fit as our homebirth midwife.
We are very pleased with our experience with you, Pam. You were there for us in every way. I love how you included my precious husband all the time throughout my pregnancy. Any questions that I had about birth were answered so well and I feel you made us ready for our first labor experience. I loved how I could always ask you any questions and it was never awkward for you or my husband. That was worth a lot. I felt you were always available to me whenever I needed you. Thank you also for taking me to the hospital when it was necessary because natural remedies we're not working in the postpartum period. Also, your help with breastfeeding was amazing and taught me to be patient and keep trying. Pam, you were great. Keep being you!
Of the three different midwifery care experiences we've had, Pam was the best. Her knowledge is extensive and she cheerfully answered all of our many questions, and was not afraid to admit it if she didn't know the answer. During labor, she was attentive and aware, but gave me space. I never felt like I was inconveniencing her by asking her to come too early or stay too long waiting for the baby to decide to come. I felt very cared for, and cared about.
As I reflect back on my most recent labor and delivery journey I can't help but thank God for and amazing husband and midwife. I never felt alone and was always being cared for. My contractions started on a Wednesday but were inconsistent. We did not end up delivering until Friday evening. Pam was amazing! She stayed by my side the entire time, always putting me first. She helped encourage my labor to progress through different natural techniques like walking and position changes. She really went above and beyond. I can't say it enough... I'm so blessed and happy to say that Pam was AMAZING! She is a one-of-a-kind!
I absolutely LOVE Pam! She has helped me in some capacity with my last 3 pregnancies. She is sweet, funny, supportive, and has become a friend to me. I have come to rely on her years of experience, as I count her advice as invaluable.
In 2013, I was pregnant with my 3rd baby. I was seeing a midwife close to me, but I had a first trimester issue that was beyond this midwife's knowledge and I was sent to a doctor. Unfortunately, I was told that I was high-risk and would have to give birth in the hospital. I reluctantly agreed, but my anxiety was increasing. I had had two previous hospital births, and they were quite traumatic to me. The thought of going back to the hospital gave me quite a panic attack, something I'm not prone to normally. I wasn't convinced that it was necessary to be in the hospital, and I wasn't convinced I was high-risk, given my previous medical history. My midwife said she couldn't see me if I was high-risk, so I ended up calling Pam, who practices in Oklahoma (I'm in Texas). She sat in my living room and spoke to me for over an hour about my fears, my birth plan, my desires, and my concerns about giving birth in the hospital. She helped me to realize that my thoughts and beliefs about birth were valid. My instincts were important, and I didn't have to ignore them. Together, we came up with a plan after exploring several options.
In the end, because of the distance, I did not use Pam for my birth. But I did take the advice she gave me and put it to good use, getting a second opinion from a more holistic OB/GYN who said I was absolutely NOT high risk, and released me to go back to the original midwife, who could now legally see me as a patient now that I was not considered high-risk. I beat the midwife to the birth center, 20 minutes away from me, and had my baby on the front porch unassisted, which was actually beautiful and confirmed my beliefs that my body was absolutely made for this, and all I needed were my maternal instincts. Pam is more than twice as far from me, so I'm certain I would not have made it to her birth center! At the time, my husband was very uncomfortable with a home birth, which is why Pam coming to me was not an option at the time. However, after having a baby on a front porch unassisted, and after catching his own baby, my husband changed his mind and gave me his blessing to have a home birth the next time. Although I did not use Pam as my midwife, she was instrumental in helping me to find my voice and advocate for myself and my baby.
The next time was two years later in 2015. I hired a midwife that was fairly close to me and attended home births. It was an awesome experience! However, after a couple days of painful nursing, we realized our baby had a severe lip and tongue tie. The dentist insisted that we see a lactation consultant after the revision, and my midwife suggested I go see Pam. I remembered her from two years earlier, and was delighted to go see her again. She was instrumental in helping my baby and me to develop a good and healthy breastfeeding relationship. I absolutely believe I couldn't have done it without her help. She was so patient with me. She encouraged me, supported me, cheered me on, and told me I could do it! It was hard...but she helped me see it through all the way to completion.
Two years later, in 2017, I was pregnant with my fifth baby. We used the same home birth midwife, but this time Pam was more involved during the third trimester. They often go to births together and assist one another, and I was so happy that Pam was a part of this pregnancy. I was blessed to have them both there to support me near the end. At one point we had a question about undiagnosed twins, so Pam was called in for a second opinion (it wasn't twins). Then, I had two false alarms during the last few weeks of pregnancy, and with a history of 90-minute labors, I let my midwife know immediately to try to ensure she wouldn't miss the birth. So both my midwife and Pam came out two different nights in the same week, and sat with me all night thinking this was the odd pregnancy where I was going to go into labor early, instead of waiting until 41 or 42 weeks. But I did not, in fact, give birth early. The contractions faded and the baby waited until 42 weeks to appear... as usual. The night of the birth my midwife arrived just 12 minutes prior to the birth and had Pam not been caught in traffic she would have arrived around that same time, but as it turns out she arrived just 9 minutes after the delivery.
Once again, I had a baby with a tongue and lip tie, and I needed Pam's help as a lactation consultant to get us off to a good start. This one was much harder than the last one though, and the pain I was experiencing was causing me to be very hesitant to attempt the latch-on. Just as before, she was patient with me, encouraging me the whole way. Again, I feel like I couldn't have achieved a healthy breastfeeding relationship without her.
I hope and pray that if, God-willing, we have another baby Pam will also be as involved as she has been with my last three. She is a lovely woman whom I consider a dear friend, and I would recommend her in a heartbeat to anyone in need of a midwife or lactation consultant.
I was working as a student midwife when I became pregnant with my daughter. I hired my preceptor to be my midwife knowing that I would receive compassionate and attentive care. I decided upon Pam as her assistant. Pam and I had worked together at several births and I knew she would be the perfect complement to my midwife. Pam offered kind words and wonderful education at my prenatal appointments. The passion she has regarding midwifery is quite evident in the time and attention that she gives to make sure questions and concerns are thoroughly addressed. She truly cared about what I wanted and what was important to me all along the way. I consider her to be an intricate part of my prenatal care. When it came to my labor and birth it was amazing to see how Pam worked with my midwife. Both offered moments of gentle encouragement and reassurance yet each were willing to give me that extra push when I required it. They created a calm and peaceful birth space, a place where I could feel safe and secure to allow my body to labor as it needed. There were times when I labored in solitude when my body wanted a break from those around me, and there were times that I needed emotional support. Pam was very aware of those needs and supported me accordingly. My homebirth was all I had hoped it would be and I know a lot of that has to do with having the perfect birth team for me. I just love Pam! I can't say enough about her. She is truly one of the great midwives.
Pam has attended my last three homebirths and there are many reasons that we continue to call on her to provide midwifery care. Pam is very educated about birth and always presents the facts and information to help calm fears. She is also very attentive and is readily available to listen to concerns, answer questions and offer suggestions all the while allowing me to be the decision maker and do what is best for our family. I would describe Pam as a joyous person who loves what she does and someone who genuinely cares for the families she serves. When it comes to my births, I love that Pam was always willing to allow my whole family to be active participants. Even during my prenatals she gets the other children involved with listening to the heartbeat and measuring my baby bump. It's always a fun time. Pam has always been quick to respond to texts and return calls when I had questions. She prepares me so well for delivery each time that I feel that we can handle just about anything. The baby turning breech was a real worry of mine, but after talking with Pam about that and working out a plan should that situation present, I felt confident and just knew we were going to ROCK IT!
My story goes back to my first. It was before I found Pam. Some things happened and I ended up with a C-section. Fast forward three years when I was referred to Pam and pestered her with many questions. During my pregnancy, labor and birth she helped me believe in myself. She helped me believe that what I was doing was possible. I was empowered. And about a year later I called her again... we were expecting. Due to my previous experience I was much more relaxed and confident during this pregnancy. I knew I could do it! As my due date approached Pam encouraged me to stay active but well rested. At 5:00 AM when I woke up in labor I was calm and ready. After a bit of laboring we called Pam and she came right over. As I labored I was able to stay calm because of some discoveries and techniques that I learned about. Pam and my husband did an amazing job of distracting me between contractions. They walked with me and were extremely encouraging. At one point in labor we decided to check my cervix and as Pam did the check my water broke. Things really started moving after that. We ended up trying some different positions in an effort to correct some heart tone issues that the baby was having. Although it was not real comfortable for me, we found a position that the baby tolerated better. Pam stayed calm and collected and told me that she understood that it was not comfortable but that it was her job to make sure baby arrived safe and healthy and that if I wanted that we were going to have to work together. She reminded me of how amazing our bodies are and that I could do it. Guess what?! I did it! Pam had to help with my baby's positioning to get her to come out a little bit quicker than she was coming, but both my baby girl and I are healthy and doing very well. Pam has gained even more respect from my husband and me. We think Pam helped empower us to make decisions...good, informed decisions. We thank God for bringing Pam into our lives not just as our midwife, but as our friend.
Pam, you were simply amazing! Being a doula for one of your clients in order to meet you was the best decision I could have made. I feel as though you provided excellent care through every stage, from pregnancy to postpartum. My questions and concerns were always addressed and you prepared me well for labor. I love your laid back attitude. You trusted that my body and my baby knew what they were doing. You were the perfect mix of encouragement and "let's do this" that I needed. Attentive when I needed you but also there were times when you left me alone as I needed and as my body labored naturally. You were my rock! I am so thankful for the birth you enabled me to have. I now have a lifetime bond with you. You will always have a special place in my heart!
My beautiful boy was born. I still can't believe how quickly and wonderfully he came into this world. Thank you to my awesome birth team who wasted no time getting to our home, big sister who slept through it all, and the dogs for being so surprisingly quiet. And most importantly, thank you to my husband for all the love, support, and confidence he has given me through all of this.
There are many words that come to mind when I think about Pam. She is personable, peaceful, and simply amazing. She is encouraging, patient and kind. She worked so well with us and supported us in the things that we wanted for our homebirth. She was always just a phone call away and really took her time answering any of the questions we had. Whenever any doubts would creep up about my body's ability to birth she was very reassuring and able to quickly put those fears to rest. We wanted to have a hands-off birth and that's exactly what Pam provided for us. She let my body labor naturally and quietly supported me through the whole birth process. I recommend her to anyone looking for a gentle and loving homebirth.
Our Prenatal Care
We knew we wanted a homebirth with our children and with our first child found one close to home. We thought we were a good fit but really didn't know what to look for or what to ask except basic questions. And we found that with our first midwife was not the best fit for us, though, it was a great and healthy birth experience. When we got pregnant with our second child we knew we still wanted a Midwife and homebirth experience but because of our first experience and other circumstances we didn't start looking as soon as we did with our first. We were thrilled when a friend of ours told us about Pamela. I scoped Pam out by going to a prenatal visit with my friend to see how her bedside manner was. As I saw Pam chat and interact during the visit I was really impressed with her cheerfulness, respect, openness, and love.
This first encounter led to me "spilling the beans" and letting Pam know that I had a "little bean" growing in me and that we were looking for a Midwife. She took the time right then and there to answer questions I had for her even though my friend was the last prenatal of the day and it was evening. Again, I could feel the care and never felt rushed! My husband and I then came for a visit to ask more detailed questions concerning the care she gives and her philosophies on childbirth. We found a PERFECT MATCH! One thing about my husband and I, we like to ask questions, do our own research, and make our own decisions about our birth experience. With our first midwife these things seemed to be a threat to her, as though we did not trust her, but not with Pam. I remember telling Pam this and she said, "Well, isn't that what most families who want a homebirth want...to be able to have some control over their care, their body, and their birth experience?!" It was relieving to see we really were on the same page in so many areas.
Something that really impressed us was her wide range of birth experience. She has delivered twins, delivered her own breech baby, among having homebirths herself, and even delivered a baby in a small RV. She has experienced moms needing to go to the hospital and supporting them there as well! The experience she had helped us make our decision.
A few unique things about our family are that we live, full time, in an RV and travel the country. My husband does Bible Seminars. So our prenatals would be more spread out then typical to work around when we would pass through town. And also we are completely plant-based. We don't eat dairy or any animal products. With both these concerns Pam was super accommodating. She worked with our schedule, and with our diet she never passed judgment! She was supportive and yet gave enough input and recommendations to know she cared that I was getting the nutrients necessary...just like she does with every other mama!
She was always open to our questions and concerns and even when we wondered what she was doing or writing or what something meant, she freely shared with us. Her openness and patience was such a joy! All of her prenatal recommendations were always given in a loving and tender way. She always shared her views and what she has researched but also shared other views and options for all aspects of care. This truly helped us to make informed decisions for our family and we never felt forced. The balance of giving freedom to choose our care coupled with the information, knowledge, skills, recommendations, and experience Pam has made the whole homebirth experience wonderful!
I found that I like to labor on my own without much coaching, talking, or assistance. Pam was great about giving me my space. Because of my own miscalculating my high pain tolerance and the quickness of the second baby, I waited too long to give Pam the ok to come on over to our house/RV. When I was ready for Pam to come (she lived an hour away) my husband called her at around midnight telling her my contraction times. They were somewhat irregular in length but consistent. I found out later that Pam heard the times and jumped quickly off the couch and started throwing things in her bag and putting her shoes on. She told me later, "I was running around the house like a wild woman!" She could tell by my contraction times that I was very close to delivery and yet she was still far away from us.
She talked to me though the phone and was able to have me get in a position to help the pushing urge not overwhelm me as she drove to us. Once she was there she was very sensitive to my needs, including my need to push, but also checked the baby's vitals in between contractions. She always asked permission to touch me, which I appreciated. Without going into too many details the birth went great! Our healthy baby boy arrived! Pam gave us time to ourselves with the baby but also did what she needed for our health and wellbeing (and cleaning) after the birth. It was a perfect blend of her being present and available as well as invisible as we basked in the joy of our new baby!
We are not sure if we will have any more children. We have our girl and our boy. But if we do, we will make every effort to be near Pam for our birth! I am almost sad at the thought of not having more children, partly because that means I won't get to talk to Pam or interact with her as our Midwife. I love her sooo much and appreciate her love for us, our baby, and for God! She is an excellent Midwife and I recommend her to anyone wanting a safe and enjoyable homebirth experience!